The First Move

I have been involved in about five conversations in the last fortnight (and more in the last few months) about who should make the first move when beginning a relationship- guys or girls. I have not posted anything about relationships deliberately until now for various reasons and am reluctant to do so now.

This is a subject that I am sure will annoy many people who read it and as I have had conversations about this to some of you already I know where you stand about this.

So, who should make the first move? The traditionalists would say that it is up to the male to do so and I know many, many girls who think so as well (and yes, even a few boys), your modern people would say that it is up to both/either party to do it. There are also the other questions that come into play- should you do it only if you KNOW the other person is interested? Do you do it if you know they are definately NOT interested? Is it dishonest not to tell them? Is it too much to tell them? I dont know the answers- I know that for me personally, I will never make the first move- too risky. that said, I also dont think it should be up to the guy totally- it is a bit of a Catch 22 situation really.

Like I said- it is up to the individual person- I dont have an objection to girls making the first move- if they can do it FANTASTIC, I have had conversations with guys who have informed me that it is just as difficult for guys as it is for girls. I am sure that I may annoy people by my comments and this is not meant to. Once again it is my opinion I am expressing and I welcome those of others

A bit of a babble

I have been thinking a lot lately about Life, the universe and everything (or more precisesly where my life is going) and letting go of a few childhood plans and dreams- something that should have been done a long time ago. I have been trying to think in terms of What I SHOULD be doing and planning- not what I WANT to do and perhaps if these things should be the same.

For an extremely long time I have had one goal in mind- to get married and have a family- probably a BIG family. As I am coming up to my 26th birthday, I have been seriously considering and seriously praying about the next 1/4 century of my life.

I dont have any decisions made (I know- typical Mel- indecisive) and I dont know particularly what I should be praying about but I am praying that I will be willing to 'listen' and obey God and trust in His plans as at the moment I dont think I am focussing on His glory but on my own selfish desires. I love my job and I want to use it as a way of ministering to other people- something I do not do at the moment- I know that whatever I do I need to be much more diligent and committed- and I need to put some effort into learning to speak to people clearly (those of you who know me know that often words fail me and I mumble and stumble) so there is a long way to go and I am still no clearer about where I am headed- I would like to go and teach overseas (maybe South America) but I think that first I need to learn to minister to people in my home country and area- something that terrifies me!!!

I can only keep praying andtrusting- 2 things that I m not particularly great at and know that whatever I do, it WILL be done for the glory of God because that is the way that God is and the purpose for which we exist